Usher You Home
Dear Blessed One,
You are not your persona. A persona is a fictional character that was created, often as a (seemingly) protective device. What happens over time while reacting to life from the fictional character is, we forget who we truly are and believe we are the persona.
What is beneath the facade, the mask that has been worn so long that it is misidentified as the self?
The first step to remembering who you truly are is awareness. Recognizing in the moment the emotions that are arising, the thoughts that are spinning stories, and the reactions to situations from the perspective of an observer can create just the needed space to see the misidentified you.
The way a fish can really “know” water is to be out of it for a moment. Step back and watch. Be quiet. Be still. Be present. Practice taking one or two deep conscious breaths before reacting or responding to what is before you. This is how you may recognize personas that you might be identified with and then the process of healing and integration can begin.
Your authentic self is always there, albeit sometimes undercover. It’s not another character and it’s not an act of trying to become or portray another fictional character (one who is funnier, more generous, more spiritual, etc.). Attempting to become more is just another distraction from the you that you already are.
Be exactly who you are, no matter what that looks like, and see it all with the eyes of compassion. Embrace the personas. There’s nothing here that needs to be fixed because nothing is broken. When the victim, the villain or the hero shows up, name that persona and give it a big hug. The hero is really one who wants to control things in other people’s lives. The victim looks to someone or something else to blame for difficult situations. And the villain typically uses anger as a reaction to life’s challenges.
Not seeing the personas or seeing them and fighting with them allows these characters to thrive.
Perceiving the fictional self, embracing it and getting curious about its beginning and its purpose will help to heal and integrate it. As it’s integrated, it is rightsized and it can no longer take over and shadow the authentic self.
You are infinite, you are divine, and you are dancing in this human form with the limited human perspective while shedding all that obscures the true Self. Each person and every situation has been called in to usher you home. Honor it all. Life is guiding everything…and you are that!
Much Love and Blessings to You,
“The true self seeks release, not constraint. It doesn’t want to be corseted in a sonnet or made to learn a system of musical notations. It wants liberation…”
~ Rachel Cusk